Tolerance is a HP bar

It's not uncommon to hear things like "... is fucking ANNOYING!" or "I hope .... doesn't come next time" or even comments (often online) about how someone should die.

Why does this happen?

Well, obviously it's because what human beings believe is important are not a universal constant.
We are all raised with different mindsets, challenges and cultural heritage. Opinions and behaviors we learn early become core values. Human beings have a tendency to build how we think and act based on that first world view... yada yada yada.

This part I'm sure you have already been taught, right?

You were also taught the three choices; Concede, Win or Compromise.

But what do you do when your core is different? When you and an other party come across a conflicting value you just cannot or will not change?

In practice sometimes you cannot win, you cannot concede and you cannot compromise.
This is how flame wars on youtube, real war and even how anon hate originates. All because your initial response will be to force the other party to change.

This is where pacifism or the act of not acting becomes relevant.

You see, I have spent a looooot of my teenage years on unhealthy relationships just because it took me such along time to admit that you should not be friends with everyone. Which arguably something I had heard so many times but not understood until recently.

Everyone has a limit to just how much and in what other people are allowed to show that they're different. The more they can stand the more tolerant they are.

I like to illustrate this point with a HP bar. Every time someone does something you don't agree with, some of it gets drained. When it becomes empty you loose your ability to rationalize and let go, and by extension become exhausted.

I am very passionate human rights so sadly my HP is pretty easily drained. I get especially frustrated, sad and angry when people display intolerant behavior.

... Ironic isn't it?

I have learnt the hard way that when I feel like something is important and the other party will not change, it's best to leave. Which is easier said and done as sometimes the party in question might be an old friend or family.

Yet, some relationships cannot be salvaged no matter their origin, ok?

Even if you can't and don't want to cut ties with people, spending at least less time with them is probably for the better. People will never be perfect, but if you find yourself constantly drained by the ones you're with. Eventually you'll find that other things that usually wouldn't annoy you will add on until you start to dislike other people and yourself for no reason at all.

Also know that the emotional state that causes people to act out towards you is the same that makes you respond. At times it's best to agree to disagree and it's always best to be with people who challenge the amount of opinions you can stand.

So with that in mind... What are your kind of people? What type of different do you accept?